Come Together : Book Discussion

Session Dates:

Sept 22nd, Oct 27th & Nov 24th, 2025 from 7pm-9pm each session.

• Session 1: meet & greet, pick-up the book & learn more of what to expect & of your fellow attendees
• Session 2: dive into the first 1/2 of the book & come with questions/thoughts & ready to discuss
• Session 3: come having finished the book & continue the learning & discussions from the previous session & chapters read.

Event Overview: Join psychologist Erin Butters & a maximum of 10 other's for a thoughtful, intimate and engaging 3-part discussion series on Come Together by Emily Nagoski. This groundbreaking book explores intimacy, relationships, and the science of connection in a way that’s both accessible and deeply insightful.

Over the course of three sessions, Erin will guide us through key themes in the book—unpacking the research, sparking meaningful conversations, and offering practical takeaways for how we can better understand ourselves and our relationships. Whether you’re reading the book for the first time or revisiting it, this series is a chance to learn, reflect, and connect with others in a supportive, open space.

Why Attend?

• Gain a deeper understanding of intamacy
• Explore the factors that influence sexual desire and satisfaction
• Learn practical tips for improving communication and intimacy in relationships
• Connect with others in an open, supportive environment
• Participate in a thought-provoking discussion that challenges societal norms
• Perfect for singles, newbie couples, couples that have been around the sun a few times

Special Features:

• Guest speaker: Erin Butters, a registered psychologies who is passionate about sexual health and relationships, will provide insights and answer questions.
• Interactive Q&A session
• Connection opportunities with fellow attendees
• Refreshments and light snacks available for purchase

How to Participate: To join this insightful discussion, please purchase one of the two options (with or without the book) Spaces are limited, so early registration is encouraged.

About Erin Butters: Being a psychologist is deeply personal. Creating a supportive, caring, safe, and empowering therapeutic experience is my unyielding passion. Change occurs with a commitment to work, bravery, and patience. The process is inspiring and joyful, and at times comes with ease.

Erin is a Registered Psychologist who has offered counselling support to clients through various stages of life in our community for 20 years, and in private practice for over 10 years. Erin is passionate about helping adults, couples, teens, and children through a wide variety of challenges including transition to parenthood, adulthood, divorce, or retirement, healing from trauma past or present, addressing unhealthy patterns in relationship, and through loss, including loss of a loved one, a marriage, or an aspect of identity. She has enthusiasm for supporting individuals grappling with anxiety, perfectionism, relationships, trauma, PTSD, cPTSD, grief, depression, OCD, ADHD, body image issues, and one’s relationship with food.

Erin has worked at Calgary Weight Management Centre where she facilitated groups and offered individual counselling as part of a multi-disciplinary team, and she spent several years as a group leader in a cross-cultural study on the transition to parenthood. She holds a Masters degree in Science, in the area of Counselling Psychology.

Erin’s approach emphasizes mindfulness, personal strengths, and the connection between thoughts and feelings. Understanding one’s adaptations to past adversity creates the self-understanding and self-compassion that supports change and new freedom in life. One of Erin’s focuses is trauma and she also incorporates principles of CBT, EMDR, and attachment theory. Learn more about Erin at Solara Psychology

About the Book: "Come Together" by Emily Nagoski Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.Nagoski breaks down the myths many of us have been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they will inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image, to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them.

You'll learn:
• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades
• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found
• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind

With her signature insight, humor, and empathy, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.

Info: meet & greet, pick-up the book & learn more of what to expect & of your fellow attendees

Info: Your homework: read to the assigned first 1/2 of the book & come with questions/thoughts & ready to discuss & learn together.

Info: Come having finished the book & continue the learning & discussions from the previous session & chapters read.

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