Spicy Speed Dating for Queer Femmes & Thems, Ages 35+

Looking to make new connections while exploring different perspectives on identity, relationships, sexuality, and pleasure?

If you're a femme, non-binary, trans person and age 35 +, this event is for you!

Come together for a night of meeting new people, making friends, and maybe even finding a spicy spark or two (or three).

The Details:

This unique speed dating event is consent-based, full of laughter, and features sexuality-related questions from Come Again?! - a new conversational card game designed to spark meaningful connections while having lots of fun. You’ll rotate through different connections and cards, with plenty of breaks and surprise activities sprinkled in! Our intention is to center folks who identify as hers or thems and are looking to date or befriend others of similar identities & orientations.

Just looking for friends? We still want you to come!

This event is not just for dating. You’ll be able to indicate what you’re looking for (friendships, dating, etc.) and everyone will be given guidelines for respecting boundaries.

No matter what you’re into, our goal is for you to feel safe and respected, and to have fun!

This event is for you if:

• You identify as a femme, gender-expansive, trans, or non-binary person who is interested in dating and/or befriending others folks of those identities.
• You are 35 years old or older! While our other queer speed dating events are all-ages, we want to center folks who often have fewer in-person dating opportunities created for them.
• You're interested in connecting on topics of identity, sexuality, and pleasure
• You thrive in spaces where queerness is celebrated and centered
• You’re ready for a fun, spicy, unforgettable night out!

Event Details:

• Date: Wednesday, October 1st, 2025
• Time: 7:00 - 9:00pm. Doors at 6:45pm.
• Where: Stoup Brewing - Capitol Hill Location
• Cost: $15 (discounted tickets are available upon request, just email us!)
• You can bring your own food into the brewery and/or buy from the local food truck
• Bathrooms are all-gender
• Accessibility: ADA accessible

About the Hosts:

Naomi Price-Lazarus (she/her) is a Sexuality Educator, facilitator, and Founder of Papaya Project, a non-profit that provides comprehensive sex education to youth and adults. Naomi spends her free time playing sports, baking cookies, and doing solidarity activism with Palestinian communities the West Bank. Follow Naomi @PapayaProjectOrg.

Breona Mendoza (she/her) is a queer sex educator, sex therapist, author, and avid supporter of self-love in all respects of the word. Her book, Clitaurus Chronicles, is a sex education story that uses art and metaphor to convey important lessons around communication, consent, and pleasure. She owns and operates a therapy practice called Colorful Therapy where she works with youth and adults to build relationships skills, self-love, and liberation. She spends the rest of her time cultivating a sex positive community, eating absurd amounts of peanut butter, finding excuses to play dress up, and contemplating ingenious ways to empower people to become more comfortable and loving with their parts. Follow her @colorful.therapy.pllc

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