Searching for Sex, Finding Connection

Sex and intimacy have never been simple, and in the age of apps, swipes, and ghostings, they’re more layered than ever. Join dating coach and author Myisha Battle (This Is Supposed To Be Fun) and longtime sexologist and writer Carol Queen, PhD (Exhibitionism for the Shy, The Sex & Pleasure Book) for a candid, curious, and joyful conversation about how we seek pleasure and connection, clarity and companionship. Copies of both authors' books will be available for purchase at the event.

Myisha brings her experience of coaching singles and couples through the chaos of dating and hooking up in the digital age. Carol, who jokingly claims she parachuted into the present from the 20th century, is bringing her notebooks full of questions along with an open heart. Together they’ll explore what it means to want (and be wanted), how to find people who fit, and how pleasure can become a kind of practice.

Bring your questions. Bring your contradictions. Let’s talk about what sex, love, and partnership look like now.

Carol Queen, PhD is a cultural sexologist, author, and staff sexologist at the pioneering woman-founded sex shop Good Vibrations, where she also curates the Antique Vibrator Museum. Known for blending radical sexual ethics with deep humanism, she’s the author of Exhibitionism for the Shy, The Leather Daddy & the Femme; and The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone, and co-founder of San Francisco’s Center for Sex & Culture.

Myisha Battle is a certified sex and dating coach, author, and host of the KCRW podcast How’s Your Sex Life?. Her writing appears in Playboy, TIME, The Cut, and beyond. Her latest book, This Is Supposed to Be Fun, reimagines hookup culture with empathy, wit, and clarity. Whether coaching clients, writing essays, or speaking to a roomful of strangers, Myisha makes space for both honesty and joy, believing pleasure is not a luxury—but a birthright.

Carol and Myisha will be in conversation with anthropologist, salonniere, and educator Cari Borja who teaches a class on the politics of pleasure, desire and eudemonia (“Since Feeling is First”) at California College of the Arts. Cari is a founding member of Clio’s.

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