An Introduction to the Erotic Blueprints™ for Queer Men

Ready to explore sex and intimacy in a way that feeds your body, heart, and soul?

Join us for an immersive day of connection, discovery, and embodied exploration, where you'll learn how the Erotic Blueprints can radically transform your relationship with sex, intimacy, and pleasure.

The Erotic Blueprints are a powerful system that reveals how your body is uniquely wired for sensation, turn-on, and arousal. Think the five Love Languages but for sex!

During this event, you’ll get hands-on experience with the “superpowers” and “shadows” of all five blueprints (Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter)—so you can better understand what lights you up, where you get stuck, and how to ask for what you want!

Through embodied exercises and guided conversations rooted in curiosity, clarity, and consent, you’ll explore your turn-on and learn how to have deeply connected, mind-blowing sex.

The day will culminate in a powerful group practice called a “feeding”—an opportunity to be deeply attuned with and cared for through consensual touch, presence, and loving attention.

Let’s be clear:

This is not a sex party or a place to cruise.

This is a sacred space to explore intimacy, connection, and eroticism—with yourself and queer community. Underwear will stay on. Boundaries will be honored. Safety, care, and consent are foundational.

By the end of the night, you’ll have:

• A greater understanding and appreciation of yourself and your body
• A new vocabulary for communicating your desires clearly and confidently
• Practical tools to support your ongoing journey of healing and exploration
• The experience of being seen and celebrated — just as you are by other open-hearted queer men

This experience will be led by two certified Erotic Blueprint Coaches, Sam and Ryan—two queer leaders who’ve walked this path themselves. Each will share their personal story of transformation: from sexual confusion and disconnection to pleasure and erotic freedom.

Begin exploring your Blueprint by taking the Quiz.

What others have said:

“The Erotic Blueprint class was INCREDIBLE. The space was luscious. It was so brilliant and inspiring to experience the stories and vulnerability of the coaches, and then learn a new somatic practice with each blueprint. It was very theatrical, super informative, and I’m so grateful I got connected to so many good folks”. - S

Meet your Facilitators:

Sam Orman (he/him) is an intimacy coach who works with people to own their desires, prioritize pleasure, and experience the deep love and connection they've always dreamed about. He believes in creating a world that works for everyone with no one and nothing left out. samormancoaching.com

Ryan Brown (they/them) helps people live truer to themselves with deeper purpose and more joy. They envision a world full of people living as their fullest, shiniest, sparkly selves. Ryan works with pleasure and intimacy to help clients pursue self-actualization and erotic liberation.

The Queer Men’s Heart Collective is a space for open-hearted, conscious gay and queer men to connect, grow, and heal together in the Bay Area. Our community hosts monthly events and gatherings to explore relationships, sex, intimacy, spirituality, personal growth, embodiment, and more.

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