In the summer of 2013, I sat on my front porch in tears—defeated, exhausted, and overwhelmed. I was living paycheck to paycheck, trying to control every aspect of my life and my family's, driven by fear of everything unknown. I had nothing left to give.That day, my wife Lynn shared words that would change everything: "If you don't like your life, change it. You are the co-creator of your life."Those words sparked my spiritual awakening. I began to understand that spirituality isn't about religion or mysticism—it's the practice and awareness of being self-aware. I discovered that my internal perspective drives my external physical reality, and that the life I was living was a direct reflection of my beliefs. I realized I carried tremendously dark & defeating limiting beliefs that were keeping me small in everything I did and experienced.I was a walking volcano, ready to explode at the slightest friction. I saw life through the lens of victimhood—convinced that life was out to get me. My fear-driven, controlling behaviour created a pattern of emotional abuse, though it was never my intent. It was the outcome of the spiritual ignorance I grew up in.Using various healing tools, I began changing my inner beliefs from limiting and defeating to expansive and uplifting. Within eight months, my income doubled. My anger transformed—where I once would have thrown bikes across the room in a rage-filled, profanity-laced explosion, I now simply muttered "That sucks" and moved on. The old reactive patterns were dissolving.But the journey wasn't all roses. In July 2022, Lynn and I separated after four previous emotional separations. Despite how much I'd changed, she couldn't move beyond the wounds of my emotionally abusive past. We loved each other, but staying together was limiting our individual healing.I received an inner message that we would reunite, but I had to truly let Lynn go. I kept this to myself and saw the separation as a healing opportunity, grateful for Lynn's strength in making the decision I couldn't. Through our separation, as we continued co-parenting our daughter, I grew comfortable with myself. I appreciated who I was becoming. I was genuinely good being single—ready to prevail and continue my spiritual journey, whether we reunited or not.I reached a place where I no longer needed to defend myself or prove myself right. Lynn observed this transformation.In December 2023, we reunited.Shortly after, we had a revolutionary revelation. During a morning conversation in bed, Lynn shared her perception of my motivations during one of our past significant disagreements. When I shared what was actually going through me—my genuine intentions—it stunned us both. My intentions were noble and came from a place of higher meaning, but my execution was driven by ignorance and a hammer-and-tongs approach that came across as controlling and confrontational. I was steamrolling everything and everyone to achieve those noble intentions.That's when Lynn and I realized our shared calling: to support individuals and couples who genuinely are seeking to create healthier, spiritually centred lives and relationships.Today, I facilitate breathwork workshops, lead Men of Presence—a men's group supporting spiritually awakening men in stepping into their Divine Union of Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine—and speak on topics of spiritual awakening, self-awareness, and transformation. My work centers on helping people show up in their lives and relationships from a place of love, support, and acceptance. The more each person is in their personal Divine Union, the stronger, deeper, and more loving their relationships become.This is an ongoing spiritual practice that continues today. As I resolve outer layers, my learnings and changes go deeper. Recently, I have experienced what joy truly is—not the conditional "high" of winning that I knew growing up, but a feeling of bliss and goodwill toward all. It's still emerging, still new, and when it arises, it takes me a moment to recognize it: "Oh, this must be what joy feels like." I'm learning to cultivate and grow this state as I move closer to realizing my Divine Union of Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. I invite you to join me on this journey of self-awareness, transformation, and presence.