The True Basis of Likes and Dislikes
It is generally believed that if two people share the same religion, language, region, or culture, there is a natural harmony and mutual liking between them. On the surface, this may seem somewhat true, but in reality, what truly wins a place in someone’s heart is not external similarities, but inner virtues.
Facing the same direction in prayer is not enough if there is no tolerance in the heart.
Speaking the same language is not enough if there is no softness in tone.
Belonging to the same religion is not enough if there is no truthfulness and sincerity in character.
Being part of the same society is not enough if one’s thinking and attitude are negative.
What truly defines a person are their morals, the way they communicate, the gentleness of their temperament, the openness of their heart, and the clarity of their actions. These are the qualities that earn a place in others’ hearts and strengthen relationships.
Real connections are formed through attitudes.
Often, we become very close to people who do not share our religion, language, or lifestyle. But their way of speaking, their respectfulness, and sincerity make our heart say, "This person feels like one of us."
Similarly, there are times when those who share our religion, language, or nationality feel distant simply because their attitude is arrogant, their tone harsh, or their heart filled with hatred.
The measure of liking or disliking someone is not based solely on external similarities, but on moral alignment, the way they think, and the depth of their heart.
It is not faces that connect hearts — it is character.
