Community Cuddles

A Cuddle Party is a workshop and platonic cuddling event centered on embodied consent, clear communication, boundary setting, and honoring others’ boundaries. Learn more here.

Event Schedule:

A Cuddle Party lasts for about 4 hours:

Doors will open at 11 a.m.

11- 11:15 am: Arrive, check in, and put on pajamas or other clothes suitable for cuddling.

11:15 am - 12:15 pm: The Welcome Circle. This is the workshop portion of the event in which we will discuss and practice setting boundaries, communicating wants, and respecting people's “no.” Attendees MUST be present for the entire welcome circle to participate. To maintain a safe container, if you are not here by 11 am. and have not contacted us, you will not be able to participate.

12:15 - 2:45 pm: Freestyle cuddle time! This is an opportunity to practice the skills we’ve gone over by cuddling and connecting with others. There is no requirement that you touch other people, so feel free to spend this time doing whatever feels best for you.

2:45 - 3 pm: Closing circle and goodbyes. We will wrap up the event by sharing any final thoughts and offering one last group hug for those who would like to be a part of it.

Cuddle Party Agreements:

1. [Clothes] stay on the whole time.
2. You don’t have to touch anyone at a cuddle party, ever.
3. You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. (Be as specific in your request as you can.)
4. If you’re a yes, say YES. If you’re a no, say NO.
5. If you’re a maybe, say NO.
6. You are encouraged to change your mind.
7. Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner.
8. Get your Facilitator or the Assistant if you have a question or concern or need assistance with anything during the event.
9. Tears and laughter are both welcome.
10. Respect people’s privacy
11. Keep the Cuddle space tidy.

After we begin the Welcome Circle, no one may enter the event. This guideline allows for participants’ comfort and safety, as everyone in attendance will be on the same page about consent and honoring boundaries.

What to Wear: Pajamas or other comfortable clothes suitable for platonic cuddling; as this is a non-sexual event, please wear clothing appropriate for an elementary school pajama party. We also ask that you do not wear perfumes, cologne, or other heavily scented products, as these can be overstimulating, especially in close quarters with others.

What To Bring: This is a sober event; no alcohol or mind-altering substances will be allowed. If you arrive inebriated (drunk/high/under the influence), you will be asked to leave. Non-alcoholic drinks and allergen-friendly snacks are welcome. Feel free to bring a favorite pillow or stuffed animal if you like. Otherwise, just bring yourself :)

COVID-19 Protocol: Masks are highly recommended but not required. I will have KN95 masks available if you do not have one and would like one. There will be a HEPA air purifier running, and/or we will have windows open if possible in the event space.

If you have any of the symptoms listed below, please do not come; you can contact me before the start of the event to be refunded or to have your ticket go towards a future event.

• fever or chills
• cough
• shortness of breath or difficulty breathing
• fatigue
• muscle or body aches
• headache
• new loss of taste or smell
• sore throat
• congestion or a runny nose
• diarrhea
• nausea or vomiting

Accessibility Information: Street parking is free, entrances are accessible, and there are bathrooms available. Please feel free to reach out to Andi at Y3VkZGxlY2FyZXNhbmRpZWdvIHwgZ21haWwgISBjb20= if you have any accessibility related questions!

Also check out other Nonprofit events in San Diego, Workshops in San Diego.