Rooted in Love

Rooted in Love: A 6-Week Couples Group

A Trauma-Informed Journey into Secure, Conscious Partnership

Healthy relationships are not built on chemistry alone. They are built on safety, repair, honesty, and the ability to stay present when things get hard.

Rooted in Love is a 6-week experiential couples group designed to help partners move out of survival patterns and into secure, conscious connection. Drawing from the teachings of Stan Tatkin, Terry Real, Harville Hendrix, and Thomas Hübl, this group blends attachment theory, somatic awareness, relational skills, and collective healing practices.

This is not couples therapy in the traditional sense, and it is not about fixing your partner. It is about learning how to protect the relationship, regulate together, and grow into a more resilient, honest, and connected partnership.

What This Group Focuses On

• Creating emotional and nervous system safety in relationship
• Understanding attachment patterns and unconscious dynamics
• Learning how to navigate conflict without escalation or shutdown
• Practicing fast, effective repair after rupture
• Working with shame, power, and responsibility with compassion
• Recognizing how family, ancestral, and collective trauma show up in partnership
• Cultivating conscious commitment and relational maturity

Each session includes teaching, somatic practices, guided couple exercises, and group witnessing. The pace is intentional and trauma-informed, with choice and consent woven throughout.

What You Can Expect

• A structured, supportive container that prioritizes safety
• Practical tools you can use immediately at home
• Facilitated exercises to strengthen trust and communication
• Space to slow down and listen beneath words
• A group field that honors vulnerability without oversharing or pressure

This group welcomes couples of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures.

Who This Group Is For

• Couples who want to deepen emotional intimacy and trust
• Partners who feel stuck in recurring conflict cycles
• Couples navigating stress, life transitions, or disconnection
• Those interested in trauma-informed, relational growth
• Partners willing to take responsibility for their part in the relationship

No prior experience with couples work is required.

Who This Group Is Not For

This group is not appropriate for couples experiencing:

• Active domestic violence
• Ongoing addiction without external support
• Severe emotional dysregulation that requires individual containment first

If you are unsure whether this group is the right fit, you are encouraged to reach out for a brief consultation.

Group Details

Duration: 6 weeks

• When: Sundays starting 3/8 to 4/12 from 3:30-5:30p
• Format: In-person
• Session Length: 2–2.5 hours per week
• Group Size: Limited to support depth and safety
• Investment: $350 per couple, payment plans available
  
  Facilitation

This group is facilitated by Shanti O’Connor, a trauma-informed therapist and grief tender with extensive experience working with individuals, couples, and groups. Shanti’s approach integrates attachment theory, somatic practices, mindfulness, and ritual, with a strong emphasis on nervous system regulation and relational repair.

Closing Invitation

If you are willing to slow down, tell the truth with care, and choose the relationship again and again, this work can change not only how you love, but how you show up in the world.

Connection grows where safety lives.

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